Friday, March 26, 2010
Better and Better
Evenings at home feel like HOME again. No ghosts. It feels completely like my house and that is a comforting feeling. I'm sleeping well and having fun. Lots of ideas about how to improve things slowly over the next year.
I do not recommend getting your heart broken as a catalyst for shifting your life, but if it happens to you, as it did to me. work with it. Feel the feelings. Grieve. Journal. Talk to friends. Do positive things. Be kind to yourself every day. Do not nurture anger. And keep moving, keep looking ahead. The day does come when there is more thought going on for what is than for what was, and hallelujah for that!
It can seem like nothing changes for long periods of time, but really there are tiny shifts every day. The key for me is to be open to the shifts that take me forward on my journey.
Had the relationship survived, I'd not be where I am now, with the ideas I have, the opportunities before me, or the courage to seize them. It would have been a good life and I don't compare it with where I am today. One isn't better than the other. They are two different things.
But one can't have both, so given there was no choice, I embrace building a fabulous new single life, I am doing very damn well at it!